Holidays and special occasions can bring out the best and the worst in us. The prospect of wonderful, happy times abounds, filling us with somewhat unrealistic hopes for our relationships. We are often disappointed by how these special occasions turn out.
Some thought and careful planning can make these times easier. First and foremost, we need to try and think about what we really want to happen. Are you looking to have a quiet day? Is it important to have anyone in particular with you? If you are a caregiver you must ask yourself, “What am I up to doing?” Honor your answer by not doing more than you feel you are comfortable doing.
If you choose to have company at these times, make it as easy as possible. Don’t assume all the responsibility. Ask your loved one what he feels up to. Most people usually like to have those they love, and feel comfortable around, with them. Limit these occasions to family members and a few close friends.
Encourage honest communication between the entire family including close friends. Although your loved one may not seem to know exactly what is going on, try to remember that most care recipients have a real sense of themselves, their illness, and what is going on in their world.